Unlock Passion’s Secrets: 50+ Steamy Questions to Fire Up Romance!

Do you remember when you used to talk with your spouse? Not about who is going to take out the trash, cook, pay the bills, book the flight, watch the kids—the list goes on. When was the last time you just talked AND listened to each other?

If you are like most couples, chances are it’s been a while since you last talked. The reality is that as life progresses, we have things to do, and our conversations with our spouses become about tasks or decisions that need to be made.

However, talking is not about decisions or checking off a to-do list. Talking is about connecting, getting to know each other, and creating intrigue.

No matter how much we all want to keep the spark alive in our relationships, as life gets busy, our lives together become mundane, and our conversations turn to the same thing every day, it can be hard to stay connected and find time to talk about the things that matter. HENCE THE NEED FOR THIS BLOG- steamy questions that are designed to start a romantic spark.

If you’ve ever yearned for profound and lively conversations but have struggled with rekindling them, utilizing a collection of prompts can effectively reignite your meaningful dialogues. This is why we’ve curated a list of 53 dirty questions to ask your spouse! 

Why should sex be talked about?

Sex is often the elephant in the room. We all desire amazing sex but shy away from the one thing that can improve it: communication! How else will your partner know your preferences or desires unless you talk about them? Whether it’s your favorite sex position or wanting to try out a new sex toy, open communication is key.

Sadly, the dirty truth is that most of us never have and never will disclose our sexual wants to our partners. Instead, we will watch porn and search for our favorite sex scene to fulfill our sexual desires. BUT that doesn’t have to be you! (click here to learn why porn is bad for your marriage).

Below, we put together a list of dirty questions to ask your partner that will help you learn your partner’s preferences and wants and take the pressure off of you when asking! After all, half the battle is the embarrassment, but hey, you can blame us for creating and forcing you to ask these dirty questions!

Related Reading: How To Talk About Sex With Your Partner

How should we use this list of questions?

Feel free to utilize these conversation starters in any way that suits you best – although we have some recommendations. We’ve compiled many intriguing questions specifically for married couples to pose to each other. These dirty questions are crafted to spark dialogue and guide you beyond your usual discussion points.

We recommend you contemplate each answer – the goal is not to rush through all the questions but to let the conversation flow organically. Switch roles every 2-3 questions and let your partner take a turn to choose and ask a question.

This list includes some genuinely stimulating queries that could lead to discussions you may have been shying away from or subjects you’ve never considered.

If you’re game for it, grab a drink, stay inside, or go on a date night and get ready to experience a night you will always remember.

61 Questions To Ask Your Lover

1. What was the most romantic moment we’ve ever shared together?

2. What are some of the activities that make us feel most connected?

3. What are some of your favorite compliments that I’ve given you?

4. What was the last time you felt really loved and appreciated by me?

5. What are some of the things that have made you feel the most cherished?

6. What are some of the things that have increased the level of intimacy in our relationship?

7. What is the most romantic thing I’ve ever done for you?

8. What are some of the things that make you feel the most desired and appreciated?

9. What are some of the ways that I can make you feel special and loved?

10. Have you ever had a one night stand?

11. What’s the sexiest thing you’ve ever done?

12. What’s your favorite way to be touched?

13. What’s your biggest turn-on?

14. Have you ever had a sexual fantasy you’ve always wanted to try?

15. What’s the most passionate encounter you’ve ever had?

16. What’s the most intimate thing you’ve ever done with someone?

17. What’s the most memorable kiss you’ve ever had?

18. What’s the sexiest outfit you’ve ever worn?

19. If you could describe your perfect sexual experience, what would it be like?

20. How have you surprised me lately?

21. Where would you want to go if we could go anywhere in the world?

22. What is the most romantic thing you have ever done for me?

23. Do you have a favorite love song?

24. What would be the perfect date?

25. If I gave you a blank check, what would you do with it?

26. What do I do that turns you on the most?

27. What is your favorite way to be intimate?

28. What would you do if you had a whole day to spend with me?

29. Do you remember the first time we held hands?

30. Have you ever written a love letter or poem for me?

31. What do you think is the most romantic thing I have ever done for you?

32. What is the most romantic place you have ever been?

33. Where would you want to go if we could build a time machine?

34. What is your favorite love story?

35. What is the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?

36. If you could relive any moment of our relationship, which would it be?

37. What do you find most attractive about me (mentally, spiritually or emotionally)?

38. What would be your dream date night?

39. Do you remember the first time we kissed?

40. What is the most romantic thing someone has ever said to you?

41. Where would you choose if you could go anywhere in the world with me?

42. What do you think is the most romantic gesture I have ever done for you?

43. What is the most romantic place you have ever been to?

44. What would you do if you had a whole day to spend with me?

45. What sex position brings you to an orgasm the fastest? 
46. What/ who were you thinking about the last time that you were caught masturbating? 
47. Is there something you’ve never tried but would like to do (strip club, skinny dipping, sex party, etc.)?
48. Do you want to incorporate any sex toys into our sex life?
49. What’s your sexual fetish?
50. Does dirty talk turn you on? 
51. If we could do anything we wanted together, what would you like to try? What would you want me to do?

52. Have you ever had a naughty dream about me?

53. What would be your dream date night?

54. What do you think is the most romantic gesture I have ever done for you?

55. What is your favorite love song?

56. What do you find most attractive about me physically?

57. What do I do that turns you on the most?

58. What is the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?

59. What is your favorite love story?

60. What would be the perfect day date?

61. What is your favorite sexual position in a car?

62. What’s the naughtiest thing that you have ever done? 

63. Would you want to play dirty truth or dare? 

64. What is the dirtiest thing you ever thought about me? 

65. What’s your favorite spot to touch that’s not down there?

66. What is the most romantic thing you have ever done for me?

So, grab a drink relax and dive into these dirty questions to ask your partner. Ask your partner one of the questions, listen to their answer, and let the sparks fly!

Take turns asking each other questions until you’ve gone through the entire list. You’ll be surprised to find how much you can learn about each other and how much more connected you feel after having these conversations! Plus the most fun is using what you learn in your sex life.