Why Do We Allow People to Take Advantage of Us?
We’ve all been there. You say “yes” when you want to scream “no.” You bend over backward to keep the peace, even as resentment simmers inside you. You stay silent when someone crosses a line because you’re afraid of losing them or rocking the boat. But the truth is, you’re not alone—many of us have allowed others to take advantage of us in […]
How Trauma Rewires Your Brain
The brain, the most complex organ in the body, influences everything we feel and do. It’s not just about our thoughts; our emotions and actions are deeply intertwined with brain function. Comprised of various structures, each serving a unique purpose, our brain relies on the seamless coordination of multiple areas to perform everyday tasks. For instance, when we misplace our car […]
“Normal Things” That Are Unresolved Trauma
At first glance, many of the behaviors we exhibit and the feelings we experience might seem completely normal. Whether it’s a need for validation, avoiding conflict, or feeling excessively anxious about failure, these reactions can appear to be just part of the human experience. However, what if some of these “normal” behaviors are actually signs of unresolved […]
Parenting with a Past: Healing Your Inner Child While Raising Your Own
No matter if you are a parent, teacher, or mentor, if you are in a child’s life and you have experienced trauma, chances are you do not want to pass it on. This blog coaches you on how to navigate raising, mentoring, or leading children without letting your trauma “get on them” per se. A […]
How Childhood Trauma Forever Changes the Brain
“Our early emotional stories determine the body and brain’s operating system and how well they will be able to guard our optimal physical and emotional health all of our adult lives.” Many kids who undergo trauma endure victimization and negativity in their surroundings. For a child, enduring abuse is often the only option, especially if […]
Somatic Exercises To Feel Safe In Your Body After Trauma
In an ideal world, feeling safe in your skin would be a birthright where no danger exists. However, post-traumatic stress disorder often robs survivors of this fundamental freedom. If you’re a trauma survivor, it can be incredibly challenging to discern when you’re truly safe. Building a foundation of safety within yourself is crucial for healing from […]
Breakthrough: Why Healing Happens In Relationships
The fate of any relationship hinges on the delicate balance of honest sharing. Our ability to authentically engage with one another determines whether a relationship blossoms, thrives, evolves, withers, stagnates, and fades into the background. Relationships are born from individuals’ proximity and sustained presence in each other’s lives. From this physical closeness emerges what we […]
How To Tell If I Have Trauma
Have you ever wondered how to tell if you have trauma? Trauma is complex, as it can stem from various events and impact individuals differently. While we often associate trauma with severe conditions like PTSD, it’s crucial to recognize that untreated trauma manifests in diverse ways, sometimes subtly and unexpectedly. Each person reacts uniquely to […]
Post Traumatic Growth: Discover How to Create a Brighter Tomorrow!
One might expect only hardship in the wake of trauma, whether from injury, illness, or loss. It’s always been assumed that a traumatic event leads to future problems and misery. While there’s no doubt that there are extra burdens to bear and healing to take place, research shows that many survivors experience profound growth and […]
You Are Worthy of Love: Healing Anxious Attachment In Adults
Open the Door to Change Every morning, when you look in the mirror, you see yourself and know exactly who you are. You don’t have to rediscover yourself each day; you already know your likes, such as your love for books, reading SimplyMidori, or your preference for strawberry ice cream. This identity is like the […]
Childhood Attachment: How We Learn To Love
Watching a baby being born is like seeing something unique happen. Every parent wants to hold, cuddle, and care for their new baby. This is where everyone’s journey of love and relationships starts. Babies really depend on their caregivers to stay alive. Hence, God designed babies with a desire to connect with others and a […]
What Happens When A Person Has PTSD In A Relationship?
PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is a mental health condition that strongly impacts relationships. Coping with its symptoms can be challenging for both partners. If you truly care about someone with PTSD, leaving them is the least likely option. Inevitably PTSD harms the connection as the intimacy, kindness, and trust in the relationship tend to […]
How to Break the Chain of Generational Curses and Transform Your Family’s Destiny
How to Heal Your Family Dysfunction and End Generational Curses 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me – Exodus 20:5, NIV (New […]
What Is Love Bombing? 9 Signs In A New Relationship
Am I unknowingly love bombing or being love bombed? Love bombing is a cunning tactic employed by individuals who bombard you with overwhelming displays of attention and affection early. While initially, it may appear positive in a romantic relationship, this insidious phenomenon can lead to gaslighting and abusive behavior. Experts in psychology warn that narcissists […]
Rediscover Your Strength: Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal. A breach of trust. Fear. What you thought was true—counted on to be true—was not. It was just smoke and mirrors, outright deceit and lies. Sometimes, it was hard to tell because there was just enough truth to make everything seem right. Even a little truth with just the right spin can cover the […]
How To Trust People After Trauma
Once you have experienced trauma, be it abuse as a child or a trauma bond as an adult, you might be uncomfortable with intimacy and struggle with trust. Something inside of you says you will only end up getting hurt if you fully open up and get close to someone. This conflict of worries makes […]
Trauma Bonding: How To Break A Trauma Bond Relationship
Trauma bonds are addictive. They produce brain chemicals that are hard to overcome. When people get involved in relationships that are toxic, they become hooked on the good experiences their spouse can bring into their lives. Breaking that addiction is essentially overcoming the undeniably strong brain chemistry created by powerful emotional experiences. It’s almost impossible […]
Trauma Bonding Test For Relationships- Are You In One?
Trauma Bond In Relationships- Decide If You’re In One I would like to start off this blog with a trauma bond test. This will help you work out if you’re in a trauma bonded relationship, are experiencing emotional abuse, or are still trauma-bonded to an ex-spouse. How do you know if you have a trauma […]
How to Break the Chain of Generational Curses and Transform Your Family’s Destiny Pt. 2
How to Heal Your Family Dysfunction and End Generational Curses 5 You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me – Exodus 20:5, NIV (New […]
12 Principles of Healing For Trauma and Codependency
12 Principles of Healing For Trauma and Codependency Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact. —William James Believing in our ability to get better is a crucial first step in healing, even when we don’t know how the brain or the body heals after trauma. What we’re sure […]